Thursday, March 25, 2010

LOVE

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

I Corinthians 13:4-8


Wednesday, March 17, 2010

今天的再见是为了以后的再相见?

从今天起,现在起,这一刻开始..是个新的开始..
今天是17日..是我们正式在一起的日子,也是正式分开的日子..
从在一起到分开事隔2年11个月..
在这期间有欢笑有泪水..有生气的也有值得纪念的..
这感情也算经历了不少的风风雨雨..
可惜这一次我们解决不了存在着的问题..
也过不了距离与时差这一关..
科技的先进在我们的感情里起不了多大的作用..

或许这样的一个决定对大家都好..
给大家空间与时间寻找我们失去的..
反正各自有各自的生活,有不同的目标..
乘年轻为课业与事业打拼是我们的责任之一吧..
你也是为了(我们的)将来未雨绸缪吧?
我依然相信你..支持你..

与以往不同的..是我们的身份..
从今天起再不会有你的晚安信息..
早上起来电话的荧幕不会显示"有新信息"..
没人叮咛我一定要吃饱饱..要早点睡觉..
不会有人唠叨我说..不要太夜才洗澡,洗头..不要翘课..
或正当我在为生活及课业忙碌时为我加油打气..
从今天起就不能再依赖你了..就得学会习惯没有你的生活....

"Nothing is PERMANENT, except CHANGE"
眼前改变的是settings..
未来如果心没变..再给彼此重新开始的机会吧..
希望这会是个好的转变..

p/s: 很感谢两位好友在这艰难的时候陪伴着我..鼓励我..友谊万岁!

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

下雨天

南拳妈妈- 下雨天
下雨天了怎么办 我好想你
不敢打给你 我找不到原因
为什么失眠的声音 变得好熟悉
沉默的场景
做你的代替
陪我听雨滴
期待让人越来越沉溺
谁和我一样 等不到他的谁
爱上你我总在学会 寂寞的滋味
一个人撑伞
一个人擦泪
一个人好累
怎样的雨 怎样的夜
怎样的我能让你更想念
雨要多大 天要多黑
才能够有你的体贴
其实 没有我你分不出那些 差别
结局还能多明显
别说你会难过
别说你想改变
被爱的人不用道歉

这首歌很适合我现在的心情,你能明白或体会那感觉吗?有太多太多的话想对你说,可是不知道该从哪里说起。我们的问题一直存在着,我没办法若无其事。你我都在感情路上遇上瓶颈了吧?都不知道该怎么走下去了吧。就让时间为我们解答,好吗?无论如何,我会记得你对我的好,你为我做的一切,我们一起闹出的笑话,我们一起经历过的,我们的点点滴滴,这一切的一切都是我们一起拥有的美好回忆。真心诚意祝福你。


Saturday, March 13, 2010

Stay Cool

Today's weather is super nice..clear sky..sunny day..
Supposed to be a good day to go out.......to the CITY!
Haven't been to the city since i came back last month lo T_T
The worse thing is i've got class..its Saturday leh..
some more the class is from 9am to 5pm T________T
but luckily its only for this weekend..so not so bad la..
Anyway..
here's the interesting thing i saw when i was at Caulfield campus..
"A picture worth a thousand words"
so here you go
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-STAY COOL-

Isn't this COOL??



Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Does Money Buy Happiness? New Research Says Maybe

Here's another nice post to share..enjoy~~

The common scientific answer to the question, does money buy happiness, has been no. Study after study has shown that once your basic needs are met and you are not living in poverty, more money does not make you happier. Doctors Norton (Harvard Business School), Dunn and Aknin (both at University of British Columbia) wondered if the issue was not that money couldn't buy happiness but that people simply weren't spending it in the right way to make themselves happier.

Prosocial Spending
They conducted three different studies that explored whether prosocial spending, that is giving gifts to charities or friends, would increase happiness where spending on selfish interests did not. First, they surveyed more than 600 Americans and found that spending more on gifts and charity correlated with greater happiness, whereas spending more money on oneself did not. Next, they tracked 16 workers before and after they received profit-sharing bonuses and found that that the workers who gave more of the money to others ended up happier than the ones who spent more of it on themselves. In fact, how the bonus was spent was a better predictor of happiness than the size of the bonus. Finally, they gave 46 students $5 or $20 to spend by the end of the day. The ones who were instructed to spend the money on others were happier at the end of the day than the ones who were instructed to spend the money on themselves.

"These experimental results," the researchers conclude, "provide direct support for our causal argument that spending money on others promotes happiness more than spending money on oneself." They also conclude that "how people choose to spend their money is at least as important as how much money they make."

All Charitable Giving Makes You Happier
According to the Social Capital Community Benchmark Survey, a survey of 30,000 American households, people who gave money to charity in 2000 were 43% more likely than non-givers to say they were "very happy" about their lives. It didn't matter whether gifts of money and time went to churches or symphony orchestras - givers to all types of religious and secular causes were far happier than non-givers.

Giving to Charity Gives Hope
People who give also are less sad and depressed than non-givers. The University of Michigan's Panel Study of Income Dynamics reveals that people who gave money away in 2001 were 34% less likely than non-givers to say that they had felt "so sad that nothing could cheer them up" in the past month. They were also 68% less likely to have felt "hopeless," and 24% less likely to have said that "everything was an effort."

Does money buy happiness? Yes money spent on helping others does buy happiness according to how to be happy research. Spread your happiness and money around by giving to a good cause or person today.

p/s: Are you happy? Do you need more money to 'buy' you happiness?

Saturday, February 27, 2010

哭过就好了

今天我哭了..哭了好久..哭得眼睛鼻子都红了..
失望了..心痛了..不想再期待或抱着任何希望了..
原来我们之间存在着这么多问题..
一直以来我以为这就是我们的相处方式..
现在才知道原来你觉得我疏忽了你..
才知道原来我只懂得期望些什么..没想过你的处境..
才知道原来我只想到自己..没顾虑到你的感受..
才知道原来我只懂得崔出你..没给你机会表达..
我以为你沉默是因为不知道要说什么..
原来不是..是因为你需要时间..
一时之间我真的反应不过来,也没办法接收..
才知道原来我一点都不了解你..
现在心里有了根刺..心情很复杂..
如今我已不懂得该如何面对你..

你不曾对我用这么重的语气..不曾这么不耐烦..
对不起..我就是脆弱..就是这么没用..
对不起..我承担不起你这样的对待和责怪..

哭过就好了..
希望一切都会雨过天晴..
新学期就要开始了..要加油~~!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

男人哭&女人哭

如果你不愛一個人..請放手..好讓別人有機會愛她..
如果你愛的人放棄了你..請放開自己..好讓自己有機會愛別人..
有的東西妳再喜歡也不會是屬於妳的..有的東西妳再留戀也注定是要放棄的..
人生中有許多種愛..但別讓愛成為一種傷害..
有些緣份是注定要失去的..有些緣份是永遠都不會有好結果的..
愛一個人不一定要擁有..但擁有一個人就一定要好好的去愛..
男人哭了..是因為他真的愛了..女人哭了..是因為她真的放棄了..
如果真誠是一種傷害..就選擇謊言..如果謊言是一種傷害..就選則沈默..
如果沈默是一種傷害..就選擇離開..
如果失去是苦..妳怕不怕付出?..如果迷亂是苦..妳會不會選擇結束?..
如果追求是苦..妳會不會選擇執迷不悟?..如果分離是苦..妳要向誰傾訴?..
許多事情都是後來才看清楚..許多事情當時一點也不覺得苦..然而妳已經找不到來時的路..
有一種愛..明明是深愛..卻說不出來..有一種愛..明明想放棄..卻無法放棄..
有一種愛..明知是煎熬..卻又不開..有一種愛..明知無前路..心卻早已收不回來..
決定放棄妳愛的他的那一刻..妳哭了..妳的眼淚証明了妳是真的很愛他..
愛不是遊戲..愛是真心的..忘記..妳做不到..不管妳們的解決是否完美..
什麼是勇氣??是哭著要他愛妳?還是哭著讓他離開??
男人的自信來自一個女人對他的崇拜..女人的高傲來自一個男人對她的傾慕..
永遠不要栽培妳愛的男人..妳把他栽培的太好..結果只有兩個..
~他從此看不起妳或者是..他給人偷了..
追求一個人的手法不需要太聰明..但離開的手法必須聰明絕頂..
為什麼人們總是不懂得珍惜眼前人??
在未可預知的重逢裡..妳們以為總會重逢..總會有緣再會..
總以為有機會說一聲對不起..卻從沒想過..每一次揮手道別..都可能是訣別..
每一聲嘆息..都可能是人間最後的一次呼吸..
也許一個女子的寂寞..也就是這樣的不堪一擊..
如果一個男人對妳伸出手..如果他的手指是熱的..
他是誰??..對妳其實已經並不重要..對於男人..更是如此..
如果一個女人在他心裡出現..只需要她的身體是熾熱的..
也許愛情只是因為寂寞..需要找一個人來愛..即使沒有任何結局..
傷口是別人給予的恥辱..自己堅持的幻覺..
像妳這樣的女人..總是以一個難題的形式出現在感情裡..
發現自己只能愛一個人在一瞬間..而且漸漸變的自私..
很多人不需要再見..因為只是路過而已..遺忘就是妳們給彼此最好的紀念..
愛可以是一瞬間的事情..也可以是一輩子的事情..
每個人都可以在不同的時間愛上不同的人..
不是誰離開了誰就無法生活..遺忘讓妳們堅強..
人這樣的生物..仔細一看..原來是傷痕累累的牆..
是否被愛..每個人有不同的感受..重尋舊夢的代價..往往是妳們付不起的..
人世間的幸福..總會令人好看一點..因為微笑..妳才了解了愛..
因為愛他..所以離開他..喜歡這句話嗎?
有些感情如此直接和殘酷..容不下任何迂迴曲折的溫暖..
帶著溫暖的心情離開..要比蒼白的真相要好..因為純粹的東西死的太快..
感情被懂..是一種幸福..等待著被懂..是一種孤獨..